Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Empty Nest Syndrome...






Comes in all forms you know...but to me, to have my living room and parlor completely devoid of furniture in various stages of completion, is somewhat bittersweet...WHATEVER!!! Am I nuts (don't answer that) well that is truly written on the walls, but now Scratchy and I can walk freely through the hallway, play chase the stick and the mouse without having to move sideways through the project jungle.

Ah...to walk in the land of the free spirit, unshackled from the man's grip of what my reality should be...is that my prison or yours. All my life as a young woman, I would strive to find that perfect husband for me and father for my daughter, but was never really comfortable with that prospect, as a matter of fact, I never really was comfortable with the word 'husband' or 'wife'. It was an odd feeling, I think, of possession, that I could never really grasp, let alone say the words. Now my daughter strives for that life, wanting all those things that society deems the norm, perfect home, perfect family life, outings with friends. I tried giving her all of those things when she was young...but you had to sift through a lot of crap back in the 60's n 70's. Women were just coming into their own, bra-burners united, that is something her generation will never understand, what it was like to be the possession and not the equal.

We still fight those problems of equality in a man's world, not having total possession of our own bodies and what we choose to do with them...NO MAN or religion should be allowed to dictate what is rightfully ours...right or wrong.

So you can see, I am a product of the 60's, a liberal, free-thinking woman, who loves living alone, unshackled and not gay. Although that is a stigma many women who live alone face...well she must be, otherwise she'd be married...NOT!!! When I was married and contemplating divorce, I told myself that the first thing I was going to do was plant a table in the hallway, not because it was practical, but because it looked great...now that' a good reason, right...Well, I don't have a hallway, however I do have a stairwell and most men would cringe coming down the steps in the morning, as it's lined with Goofus Glass vases, taxidermy and pictures...even my didgeridoo at the bottom of the handrail, stops the complete slide of the hand nearest the bottom...OH, the inconvenience...but me and Scratch have no problem navigating. We are not looking for something to bolster our power-over...we just love the thrill of the ride...AND...we get the whole apple pie (aka.enchilada)...laughing all the way!!!

18 comments:

Sandra Ree said...

You Go Sharon!

Even though I've been married for 32 years and love Dumplin' very much, I feel the very same way you do.

Great post! :D

The Feathered Nest said...

Sharon, I just LOVE your house, I love the eclectic feel....looks like there's treasures whereever your eyes fall...magical!!! I decorate my house the way I like it cuz if mama ain't happy, ain NOBODY happy!!! xxoo, Dawn

RainbowMom said...

I have become completely addicted to your blog. I LOVE your home and it's very much the way ours is starting to look. :) I even have a beaded curtain that I beaded and made myself.. each strand representing something in our lives that goes from the foyer to the kitchen.. my husband doesn't mind.. I think I'm a lucky one. He's loves me strong and free and if that was killed in me I think it would kill him as well.

Hey Harriet said...

I love that you're a 60s, liberal, free thinking woman! Your blog certainly reflects the wonderful attitude towards life that you have!

beverley said...

OH PLEASE, more pics of your home!! I LOVE it.

Shab-n-Chic said...

Your home is awesome and sooo cozy. Does Scratchy know how lucky he is?

cconz said...

Sharon, that's why we are friends. we think so much alike. I can't say "HUSBAND" either. He's my lover and my best friend. (is'nt that a song), Husband sounds like a possession. Like MY wife, MY dog MY house. I love your house girl, i'm going to come and see you soon.
I also feel so strongly about making choices about my own body. I can't believe that what ever her name is, We have to keep her out!!!!

Greyscale Territory said...

I moved back and forth several times, trying decide which pic of your home I love the best! OK! ALL of them! Magical atmosphere!

And I too don't like the idea of husband. It sounds like shackles and chains. I have a partner. That sounds on equal terms and that is just what we are!

High Desert Diva said...

Love this post Sharon.

And so apt right now when (it seems to my bewildered brain) women are cheering for Palin. Why is this when she is against everything women have fought so hard for for the last century?

Confusing times...

white o'morn cottage said...

Marvelous! You save me a lot of typing by speaking my mind so often. I much love my hubby. I was lucky to meet my soulmate. But should anything happen to him or us...well, there is no WAY I am hooking up with anyone else. It took us years to get it right and I just don't have enough time left to struggle to get it right again with someone else. Ah, no, no, that circus can carry on without this clown.

Patty. said...

amen to that sister

timeworninteriors said...

I wanna sleep on that leather couch when I come to visit! And you know how I feel about the man thing!!!
Theothertheresa

lovesoldstuff said...

Hey Sharon,
I wanna be just like you when I grow up! 47 and still waiting....

timeworninteriors said...

New Post Please! My soul needs food!
Theothertheresa

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paisley said...

but what fun it must be to be surrounded by all that unique stuff and watch it transform and become one treasure at a time.....

Utah Grammie said...

Sharon, I see that you have some of the photos of the early women who were fighting for the vote - did you see the story attached? I was incredible eye-opening and so sad -what they put these women through - unbelievable horrors. We as women must NEVER forget what they did for us - and never have ANY excuse NOT to vote! Thanks for posting!
Colleen

Morna said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog - especially since I now know about yours and I am enjoying it very much. Also, not that you haven't heard this a million times before, but - you have great hair.